We should never regret
too much in our lives. However, there comes a time when we realise there are
things that, if we had known them earlier, could have benefited us a lot in our
younger years. Maybe we only come to these realisations through personal growth
and experience, but sometimes we can go through life not being fully aware of
situations until we hit a crisis point that leads us to question whether we
truly did or cherished things to the best of our ability
How often have you
thought to yourself I wish I’d known this when I was younger? There’s an
overwhelming feeling that if your younger self had just been more enlightened
or aware, then you could have dealt with emotions and situations more readily
or just moved forward with a more knowledgeable mindset and perspective on
life.
With this in mind, here
are 7 important life lessons that will change your perspective and mindset to
enhance your experience of life for the better.
1.
Be Present In The Here And Now
We spend so much time
rehashing the past or planning for the future that we forget to experience the
present moment. The present moment is what is happening to you right now.
Happiness can only exist in the present moment ‒ the past has gone and the
future hasn’t come yet so the present moment is all we have.
Our minds have a habit
of running at a hundred miles an hour and this means we are rarely just being
in the here and now. Try stopping and looking around you, see what is happening
right now, be mindful of where you are right in this moment, or simply be aware
of your breathing. Once you do this, your mind will start to open up and
appreciate what you have right now and you will even start to feel like time is
no longer slipping away.
2.
Don’t Rule Your Life By What You Think You Should Or Shouldn’t Do
Society, or our
family’s expectations tend to make us think there are things we should do ― I
should go to university and get that degree or I shouldn’t pursue my dreams
because I won’t make the same money as I would working in this dead-end office
job. We all have these niggling ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ circling our minds,
but when we make these statements, who exactly are we making these statements
to? Who exactly are we trying to get permission from? And why is this
acceptable? Living your life the way you want to is the only way to be happy.
Stop limiting yourself because of other people’s expectations. It’s your life
and no one else’s.
3.
Don’t Make Things Bigger Than They Are
Our minds can work
against us and through mindsets we develop and fears that take over. We can
often make problems much bigger than they actually are. It’s all about
perspective. How many times have you thought something was a huge deal but a
day, week, or month down the line you don’t even think about it anymore? That’s
because your mind likes to focus and blow-up worries and problems that aren’t
actually problems.
Next time it happens
just take a moment to ask yourself: realistically, will I still be thinking
about this tomorrow, next week, next year etc.? Most of the time the answer
will be “NO” so eliminate all the unnecessary worry you put yourself through.
4.
Face Your Fears More
We all have fears ―
some are justified and some are not ― but to grow and really get as much out of
life as you can, you need to face your fears more often. Remember that many of
your fears are only a product of your mind; they don’t actually exist. When you
start to realise this, doing things you find intimidating and scary will actually
become easier. The feeling you’ll get from facing your fears head on will be
the best and most rewarding feeling you will ever have and, 100% guaranteed, it
will always never feel as scary as your mind thought it was going to be.
5.
Slowly But Surely Wins The Race
When we’re younger, we
tend to aim high and want everything quickly. When we set ourselves goals, we
can give up easily when we don’t get the results immediately. Our modern world
has conditioned us to expect and obtain anything in a blink of an eye which has
led us to believe this can be the same for our dreams, goals, and ambitions.
The secret to success
is small steps for big changes. Our goals are there to help us achieve and grow
and we can’t do this if things happen quickly with no area for learning or
getting a sense of achievement from it. Remember to set yourself small
attainable goals that will help towards your dreams and know you are on the
right path no matter how long it will take.
6.
Stop Assuming What Other People Are Thinking
We can often make huge
assumptions about what others are thinking whether they are judging you for
something or thinking badly about an opinion you had. The bottom line is the
world doesn’t revolve around you. Everyone around you is dealing with their own
problems, worries, and insecurities and the chances are, they aren’t paying as
much attention to you as you may think. So stop caring and, even worse,
assuming what others are thinking. You wouldn’t want anyone to assume what
you’re thinking so why do it to others?
7.
Appreciate Everything In Your Life
One of the most
important life lessons is appreciation. The older we get, the more we
appreciate the things in our life including people, experiences, lessons we’ve
learnt, and even our possessions. Establishing this habit early on the better,
because gratitude and appreciation is the true key to happiness. The sooner you
can be enlightened to this and integrate this into your everyday life, the more
you’ll be able to live in the present moment and be thankful for what makes
your life a good one―no matter how small the thing is you’re appreciating.
So, whether it’s the
shower you get to take every morning, the nature around you, your pet, that one
person who you can talk to about anything, the food in your refrigerator―appreciate
it all and realise the abundance that’s really present in your life. This will
transcend into the rest of your life and establish the positive mindset needed
to live a happy and healthy life; your older self will thank you for it!
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