We all had dreams and
aspirations early on in our lives. Those dreams that made our eyes lit up when
we spoke about them to others. But how many of us are still focused on those
dreams after life knocked us to the ground a few times or took us to different
places or after the people we trusted abandoned us?
Many times life takes
us to unfamiliar territories and our dreams fade. We move through life, but our
dreams are left behind while we sacrifice, bleed, sweat, and fight to make
others’ dreams come through.
Some of us got married,
had children, got a job and those dreams that brought us such excitement and
happiness are no longer a priority. We put our dreams and aspirations on hold.
We are so focused on all the other things life throws our way that we have
forgotten why we are here.
Life doesn’t always go
the way we want it to. We, therefore, have to make things happen. So what
happens to those dreams when the kids are all grown and have left, or, when a
relationship ends? Do you now have regrets? Are you angry? Do you feel lost?
How are your self-esteem and confidence?
How
much are those dreams and aspirations worth to you at this point? Do they still
matter to you?
I am here to tell you
that if those dreams truly matter to you, you can still make them come through.
Your dreams, though delayed, should never be aborted or abandoned. They are
right where you left them, waiting for you to renew your love and determination.
Before long, you can make those dreams and aspirations a reality.
Here are a few tips to
remember when trying to go after your dreams given a period of delay:
It’s
never too late to go after your dreams
Firstly, you must want
to go after your dreams with all that you have within you. Even though it is
much later in your life, you can achieve these dreams. You may be older but
your dreams never truly die. On the bright side, you are now wiser, stronger,
and better prepared to deal with life at this stage.
Control
all the negative thoughts in your head
Our minds can be
merciless especially when we are trying to go into uncharted territory. All the
passion you had is replaced with cynicism and questions. You now become
fearful, intimidated, and filled with doubt.
You can hear your mind
asking you questions loud and clear. Why now? Aren’t you too old? You will never do it? These are just of a few
of the many thoughts that will be going through your mind once you decide to
get up and make a change. The worse fights you will have when going after your
dreams will be those from within. The ones that only you have control of and
the ones that will be with you all throughout your journey.
You will have to want
it badly and be determined that nothing and no one is going to delay your
dreams anymore. The same mind that is telling you that you can never do it is
the same mind you will have to condition to now motivate you to want to do it.
You
might have to go it alone
Often when you decide
to go after your dreams, you will find yourself alone. The people you love and
care for may no longer be supportive of those dreams. Many may not understand
it and others are fearful since they like you have neglected their dreams. If
they couldn’t do it, they do not believe you can either.
You are going to feel
empty and alone sometimes. You will be second guessing yourself and whether or
not you’ve made the right decision. You will have to be strong and realize that
those thoughts are normal, but you must be prepared forging ahead.
We all had those dreams
where we believed we could achieve anything. How many of us have stopped to
consider the price we will have to pay to achieve those dreams?
Take
small steps
You need to start out
taking small steps. Things are going to look and feel strange to you at first,
and it might take you some time to get yourself together. With determination,
you will find your way. You will soon realize that things do become easier with
time.
Socialize
with people who share your passion
Go out and meet other
people who, like you, are starting over. You would be surprised to know that
you are not alone. There are many people who had put their dreams on hold and
are now going out and trying to achieve them and doing so.
Be
bold and courageous
You must be bold and
strong. Do not allow negative thoughts to control your mind. Do not allow fear
to prevent you from achieving your dream.
Let fear become your motivator.
Fear should be the reason you go out and work harder. The more steps you take in the direction of
attaining your goals the less fearful you will be.
The closer you are to
achieving your dreams the more self-confidence you will have. The more
confidence you have the harder and more determined you will be to pursue your
dreams.
The
only right time is now
There will never be a
right time to go after what you want than today. If you continue to wait around
for the right time, it will never come.
You have to make the time. You must be willing to take steps into the
vast unknown and be confident you will be fine.
Be
prepared to fail a few times
Failure should never be
the reason you quit fighting for your dreams. You must expect to fail but also
be prepared to get back up and keep going.
Failure is just a bump in the road towards your dreams. Remember you haven’t done it before therefore
you will mess up sometimes but that is part of learning.
You will also be
discouraged and frustrated but dig deep to find the strength. Learn from those
mistakes and keep going. Every mistake
should make you wiser, stronger, more courageous and better able to
handle anything life throws your way.
Enjoy
your life
Most of us tend to put
off enjoying life to achieve our dreams but while we are delaying our
happiness, life is passing by. Choose to be happy in spite of what is going on
in your life. If you aren’t happy with things the way they are now you will
never be happy even when you have achieved your goals. Choose to be happy with
every step you take, good or bad.
Take the time to do
things that excite you and things that make you feel good about yourself. Life
is short and if you are willing to be happy with a little, you will be just as
happy with a lot. The same is true if you choose not to be happy with a little:
you will only be an unhappy person with lots of stuff.
Take
time to lend a hand
While you are eager to
go after your dream do take some time to lend a hand to those that are less
fortunate. It will give you a different perspective on life. You will also
realize how helping others help you as well. It will also help take your mind
off your problems at least for a moment and when you return you will be better
able to see things differently.
Never
quit
You will be tempted to
throw your hands in the air and give up when things get rough. But after
waiting all this time to go after what you love you should never let anything
deter you. Fight for what is yours even harder than you fought for other
people’s dreams. You will have the same
struggles, but now this is for yourself. Be brave and face life knowing that
you are fighting for yourself this time.


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