Success means something different to every person:
like beauty, it exists in the eye of the beholder. It is your responsibility to determine what
success means for you, and how you go about breeding success in your life.
Despite this, there are definitely hindrances to
success. These drawbacks are ubiquitous in their ability to deter your success.
But don’t fret because if you seek success, and you fear your actions are
blocking your desire for success, you have the power and control to overcome
the following obstacles.
1.
Making Excuses
Stop blaming other people for why you don’t get what
you want. Stop refusing to accept responsibility for your mistakes. You make
your own choices and you make your own mistakes.In general, stop justifying
your poor choices and stop attributing your lack of success to things outside
of your control. Successful people don’t do this.
You are going to err. You are going to fail. When
this inevitably occurs look within, in a non-judgmental manner, and figure out
what you can do better next time. Don’t waste time looking externally by
creating excuses for why you didn’t achieve success.
2.
Focusing on the Negatives
Yes, there are negative circumstances in life that
you have no control over. There are also plenty of positive experiences in your
life. I am willing to bet you have more positives in your life than negatives.
You are capable of living with a positive perspective. If you want to cultivate
success in your life than you need to concentrate on all the good. You shouldn’t
disregard the negative, but you don’t have to give it so much of your
attention. Otherwise you are never going to be satisfied because you are so
focused on the unfavorable conditions of your life. Even if you reach a level
of ostensible success, your continued focus on the negatives will prevent you
from relishing your accomplishments.
3.
Fearing Failure
As I previously stated, YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL! There
is no reason to fear it. Rather, you should embrace it. Learn from it, and
ultimately improve from it.
When you are successful you know you are always
trying your best. When you fail it is not a reflection of you as a person; you
are not a flawed individual. View failure as an opportunity to grow, not as
something to be feared.
4.
Looking for the Easy Way
I want to preface by stating that attaining success
isn’t supposed to be an improbable venture where you have to overcome a certain
amount of adversity and hardship. I am opining that successful people don’t
look for the easy way through life.
Merely strolling through life on cruise control is
not the blueprint for success. You need to challenge yourself at times. Push
yourself and stretch your limits. Aim to reach your maximum potential, and then
go beyond that. That is a success in itself.
5.
Beating Yourself Up
You wouldn’t ever beat yourself up physically so why
would you do it emotionally and mentally? Learning how to skillfully deal with
your thoughts and emotions when you are facing adverse situations is crucial to
being successful.
Get upset over things. Express your emotions in an
appropriate manner. Be unhappy from time to time. It is going to happen. But
don’t ruminate over unpleasant memories and beat yourself up over things that
already occurred. Too much time and energy spent on this diverts your attention
away from more important endeavors like progressing toward your goals.
6.
Being Ungrateful
The best way to establish more contentment in your
life is to be more grateful. If you want to push away happiness, joy, and bliss
than be ungrateful. Gratitude breeds happiness but it also breeds success. If
you are grateful for your life and everything that comprises it you are going
to have a less complicated time attaining wealth and accomplishing your goals.
I don’t just mean financial wealth because wealth
includes all kinds of valuables. I am not proposing that all financially
wealthy people are grateful, and therefore, successful, or that all financially
poor people are ungrateful, and therefore unsuccessful.
Being ungrateful is not congruent with getting ahead
in life. If you crave success than observe everything you are grateful for.
Your gratitude will serve as a compass for your life. It will guide your
decision-making, and lead you to success.
7.
Concentrating Solely on Your Needs
Hopefully this goes without saying but focusing only
on yourself is not going to help you attain success. You could be the
wealthiest person on the planet, and it is apparent that you are extremely
successful. If you accrued your wealth by taking advantage of people, or by
being selfish and egotistical, you are not successful in my book. You probably
wouldn’t be very happy either. The best way to succeed in life is by helping
someone else!
8.
Getting Distracted
You were going to start your book but…You were going
to launch your dream business idea but…You were going to travel through Asia
but…
I get it. Things come up. Life takes you on a
different course. It happens sometimes. But don’t allow yourself to become
distracted from realizing your dreams. When distractions obstruct you from your
passions than you are moving further and further away from claiming your ultimate
successes.
This starts with your daily life. It is fun and
often necessary to log onto Facebook and check emails, but don’t allow the
modern technological age to prevent you from the work that needs to be finished
today. Success is based on working toward your goals while not letting
disruptions hinder that.
9.
Living Aimlessly
It is your responsibility to ascertain your life
goals and objectives. Being successful means you are fulfilling your life’s
purpose every day.
Whether your purpose is super ambitious such as
solving world hunger or more feasible like being happy, doesn’t matter. The
point is that you are aiming to be the best you can be. Steadily wandering
through life without any ambitions or without contributing anything to society
is not what successful people do.
10.
Giving Up
When you face an improbable obstacle in life how do
you respond? Do you give up, or do you keep pressing on? Successful people
don’t give up. They commit themselves to reaching their final destination. They
may not ever get there, but they don’t allow impediments to prevent them from
trying. This means continuing on despite failures and disappointments.
Success encompasses a lot of different arenas. What
works for financial success may not translate into relationship success. Being
successful as an athlete doesn’t necessarily make you successful as a student
as well. There are varying degrees of success depending on what situation you
are in.
Regardless, the fundamental backbone of success is
trying your best. If you put forth your best effort, without harming others in
the process, than you are a successful person. This can apply to work, family,
friends, relationships, hobbies, etc. As the late great John Wooden said,
“Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in
knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.” I
think that sums it up beautifully.
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