Shy. Reserved.
Slightly geeky. Socially
awkward. If you ask people to describe
an introvert, you’ll most likely hear them described these ways. It’s not their fault, movies and television
shows often portray introverts this way.
From the days of The Breakfast Club to Little Miss Sunshine to Napoleon
Dynamite to The Perks of Being a Wallflower, introverts are often portrayed as
awkwardly shy people, often ok to average looking, and typically
unpopular. Further reinforcing this
stereotype are movies like She’s All That and Can’t Buy Me Love where the
popular kids make a bet that they can ‘make over’ the introvert and turn them
into popular extroverts. Fortunately,
the moral of most of these latter stories is that the introverts don’t need to
be turned into exceptional, incredibly attractive people by the extroverted
popular crowd. They already are.
Introverts are incredibly attractive people, they just typically don’t put
their awesomeness on display for everyone to see.
They’re Deep Thinkers
Introverts
are notoriously ‘in their own head’ much of the time. For most introverts, it’s a safe place to
be. Inside their heads, they engage in
deep conversations, ruminate about life, the universe, and everything, and take
the time to really reflect on all that’s going on in the world around
them. When an introvert speaks, it’s
almost guaranteed that they have spent many hours thinking about the subject,
forming their opinions, and carefully choosing the words they wish to use.
They Have More Intimate Connections
It
takes something special for an introvert to bring you into their world. When they do, you can bet that they believe
you’re someone special. By bringing down
barriers, an introvert is letting you know they’re interested in connecting
with you beyond a superficial level.
They’re displaying a level of intimacy and vulnerability that not many
people get to see.
They’re Great Listeners
Everyone
dreams of having that partner with whom they can just talk about everything and
nothing for hours on end. Someone who
listens and really understands what is in your heart. This is one of the introvert’s
superpowers. They love to listen and if
you’re looking for advice or support, what they will offer is something they’re
giving just to you, and that’s valuable beyond measure.
They’re Mysterious
Think
Gatsby. In a crowd, they’re the ones
hovering around the outside, watching, observing, usually with a sly smile and
a devious look on their face. If it’s
their party, they’re making sure everyone is having a good time, floating from
group to group, never staying in one place too long. They’re around long enough so you know
they’re there, but not long enough for you to know much about them. They’re not flirting with every face they
see. They’re not bragging, boasting, or
showing off. They’re in absolute control
of their mood, their emotions, and even their body language. Yet, somehow, they manage to attract people
to them. Their mysteriousness is
magnetic, and it leaves people wondering just what it is they have.
They’re A Challenge
Just
about everyone loves a challenge. While
extroverts lay it all out there for other people to see, introverts, being more
guarded, let you know exactly what they want you to know when they want you to
know it. Usually, introverts are experts
in letting little bits of information out that are intended to pique the
curiosity of someone they’re interested in.
Introverts are great social fishermen.
Because they’re more inclined to have fewer, yet more intimate
connections, this trail of information is to not only designed to attract
someone, but as a test to see if the person they’re attempting to attract is
worth the emotional investment. Creating
this challenge ensures that the introvert is that much more attractive. The joy is in the pursuit, and the introvert
knows how to make the reward bigger than you imagine.
They Take Care Of Themselves
Overall,
the introvert doesn’t want to draw unwanted attention to themselves. They prefer to blend in with whatever crowd
they happen to find themselves in.
However, introverts leave clues.
As they tend to spend more time in solitude than in crowds, introverts
are meticulous in how they take care of themselves. You’ll often see them with their hair neat
and styled, their nails are trimmed, they smell good, and their clothing fits
them perfectly. Introverts often look
and dress like a model without all the flash.
They Take Care Of Others
Because
they know what it is like to be on the outside looking in, introverts are great
at taking care of those they care about.
They have a generous spirit, and tend to embrace genuine altruism. They’re the ones that will bring you a cup of
tea every morning, bring you soup when you’re sick, and offer to watch your
house when you’re on vacation. The truly
generous, those who give without the expectation of receiving in return, are
beautiful people inside and out.
They Know Themselves
There’s
something to be said about someone who is secure in who they are. Introverts know what they like and don’t
like. They are deeply connected with
their values and know what they want to get out of life. Such strong self confidence makes one more
attractive, sophisticated, and desirable.
They Are Easy To Be Around
Introverts
avoid the spotlight like vampires avoid sunlight. They’re not looking to be the center of
attention. They’re not looking to make a
huge impression on everyone around them.
They’re simply looking to relax and enjoy the company they’re with. It doesn’t matter what you want to do,
they’re just happy to be spending time with you and are more than happy to let
you have the spotlight on the karaoke stage all to yourself. While they’ll likely run and hide when their
name is called, you can be assured that when you step off the stage, they’ll be
the ones cheering the loudest.
They Are Loyal
Introverts
are very intentional about who they want to spend their time with. Any relationship, whether business, social,
or romantic, requires a substantial investment of time and energy for an
introvert. Because of this, introverts
are not always on the prowl for the next big thing, the next score, the next
connection that’ll help them climb the ladder.
They’re invested in you and will remain invested in you no matter the
distraction. They’ll defend you when nobody else will and be at your side when
everyone else abandons you. Just don’t
take their loyalty for granted or take advantage of them too many times. They’re loyal, however if you burn them too
many times, they’ll be nothing more than a memory.
In
summary, introverts are amazing people with rich hidden depths, and if you are
one or know one, rejoice!
Source: Life Hack


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